I know you're not supposed to compare your kids, but Ben and Lilly have such different personalities. Ben is so social and has always loved being around people. He will walk up to anyone and talk their ear off. He loves having visitors, going on trips and being independent. I think he came out of the womb saying no and trying to negotiate a later bedtime.
Lilly on the other hand, is more reserved. She is definitely fun and fun-loving, but she likes to stick close to her Mom and Dad. She's my little shadow...and when she's not right next to me she's calling "MOOOMMEEEE." She's been easy-going and compliant - although she has always been very clear on what she wants and doesn't want.
I have a feeling that's all beginning to change as we officially entered toddler-ville with one very powerful word: NO. Lilly was standing on the sofa and I said "Lilly, please sit down on the sofa" to which she looked at me square in the eye and said "NO." I was shocked! Up until that moment she had really been very good about going along with what we asked. Ever since then it's been a downward spiral. "Lilly, time to get out of the tub." "NO." "Lilly, please close Mommy's drawer." "NO." I've been putting her in time-out if she really gives me attitude, which is hilarious because she has no clue what's going on (but she's learning) and Ben is SO thrilled that someone else is going in time-out that he wants to be very involved. I have noticed that they sit with each other when one is on a time-out, which I think Supernanny would not approve of, but it's so cute I can't say no.
Terrible, er terrific, two's are on the horizon and it looks like Miss Lil is ready to become a bit more assertive. I'm just hoping that we can avoid the classic toddler melt down/temper tantrum in a very public/embarassing location. I'm sure we won't be so lucky!